My friends consist mostly of filmmakers, but I have non-industry friends because of the beach community I call home. The ages of my friends range from 24 to 55 years old. Some of my friends are married, some of my friends are dating, but the majority, men and women, are single. When I go out, I'm out with a mix of single women, men, couples and daters alike.
We party like anyone, anywhere in the US of A! We drink, dance, sing and slam shots. We ride bikes to neighboring beach towns, infiltrate the bars, drink lots of vodka, dance on tables, crowd the bar top and slam Jager shots, sing along with the song the DJ is blasting, ride our bikes back to our beach, wake up realizing we forgot to close our tabs. We also dress up, Hollywood style, rent limos, club hop all over H-town, drink lots of vodka, dance, sing, slam shots, get in the limo, head home, wash, rinse & repeat!
You may ask yourself, "why is this 36 y.o. woman living a life unlike that of college?" Answer, I live in LA! I work in the film industry and unless you live here and work in the industry, you'll have to trust me on what I tell you in this blog. People DO NOT DATE here. They hook up, casually date, sleep around(using condoms, no doubt) and mess around. The girls I know who catch a guy, only get him for a few months before he is stolen or interested in another woman. The guys I know who are lucky enough to find a girl who will date them, wind up single once she becomes bored with him. The reason; there are so many attractive, talented, unique men and women in this city, it's ridiculous to be with just one. I live in an adult candy store, filled with appealing men and women, of all looks, creeds, styles & cultures available on the planet. I may as well be on Overstock.com when I'm out at night. There are 9,862,049 people living in LA County. LA County is 4,061 sq. miles. This includes 88 cities. 10 of which I frequent.
This said, dating and committing isn't unheard of, but for me and the friends I've found myself surrounded with, it doesn't happen often. I see no reason why I should be in a committed relationship at this time. I work 10 to 12 hour days. I meet 2 new people per day on average. When I'm on a production, I meet up to 70 new people in 6 weeks. When I'm out at the bars and clubs, I meet 3 or more new people. How can you commit with these odds?
This brings me to the point of my blog. Cubs. Me being on the edge of my 30's finds herself out on my most cherished nights with my ladies & gentlemen, only to be hit on by men(boys) under 30. This happens every time I'm out. I'm not kidding. The average age of a guy who hits on me is 28. I've had many 21 & 22 year old guys come up to me at the table I'm sitting at, surrounded by men and women, and ask me my name, slide in and sit by me and drop one-liners as if we were alone in the desert.
I'm always impressed with their self assurance, but they usually lose me as soon as they start to speak. (Cub:brag, brag, brag, & brag a little more)(Me:boring, can I please get back to my friends now?)!
The few years that I have lived in Los Angeles have proved to me, time and time again, that I am destined to be a cougar when I grow up. Men over 30 rarely/never hit on me, ever!?! The 30 and under club, finds me, presents themselves to me, with no fear. These fearless cubs are winning me over, one night at a time. I can't help myself. I'm in my late 30's, if I need anything, it's sex and intimacy at no cost or obligation.
I am succumbing to my destiny. I'm curious about cougars before me. Who does pop-culture recognize as the first cougar? Why do younger men hit on older women? Why do older women adore younger men?(Am I really asking this? All I need is a set of abs and I'm sold!) Why am I enjoying myself so much?(Really?)
I'm on a path which has been laid before me. The path to becoming a cougar.
This is my blog. These are my cubs and I am a cougar in training!
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